chardonay Babii Posted May 9, 2016 Share Posted May 9, 2016 I would just like to put it out there that not all guys playing girl avatars are looking to get their rocks off but for some that assumption is well deserved from what I have seen. I play a girl in SL for many reasons. The main one is, as a guy the way my brain is wired up seems more the female than male. As a girl in SL I feel at ease without stereotypical gender roles being forced on me.I enjoy the company of women as friends and like shopping, doing up my avi and the pink feminine things girls like and enjoy and find it liberating. In the real world would love to be able to have girls as friends but it’s just not practical for many reasons even though an extra marital affair would be unlikely from my end. In SL I am free from the prejudices, constraints and social norms of being a guy which for a short time is a relief and I can just be who I am. In RL I wouldn’t look good in a pink butterfly shirt but in SL I do, even though if I could get away with it I would wear one RL because menswear is so boring but that’s not happening lol.As much as I would love to keep it a secret that I am a guy I found so many people are lonely and looking for love I always reveal it with friends fairly quickly so they don’t get the wrong idea or be disappointed. The hope is they accept me but some don’t because they can’t deal with SL not mirroring RL in other people even if it is a fantasyland where you can be anything you choose. I have a strict plutonic relationship rule in world that has never been broken unless you count trying pose balls with someone for amusement as a meaningful relationship. This does not mean I am gay or do it for kinky reasons which is often an assumption people make and nothing could be further from the truth. What fulfils me is being girly, free to express emotion and being nice to other people and hopefully getting that in return.When I first joined I shouldn’t have had that glass of wine at naming time thinking I will change that name later. Everything else I could think of wouldn't work with the stock Linden last names so for 8 years I have lived with an embarrassing name that sounds like a cheap hooker for my favourite Avi. I made a lot of close friends I thought I would let down if I got another account with a more sensible name so I just kept it and especially once I had spent some money it was out of the question to cancel it.My first inclination when I joined was to try to be a girl out of curiosity and probably a slight attraction to my avatar once I got past the ugly Ruth stage. After getting past new player silliness I began to realise this is what you are in your mind thanks the chance to explore femininity freely and going back to a guy was awkward and very boring. I do have a guy alt but that is only for other people that need to see a guy for whatever reason.Seeing how open everyone is on the forum about themselves I thought I would put this here too for no other reason than to help break the stereotype I often hear about this that it’s all about getting off sexually for everyone. It's more a matching of brain gender for many people.Iwould love to hear how others feel about this. 13 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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